Imagine for a moment that you are a lone soldier under orders to capture an enemy city. You slowly make your way and finally, the city appears, it's an awesome spectacle. The walls are massive and spotted with enemy troops. The large
metal gates seem impenetrable and you wonder what your going to do. That sounds kind of strange but the bible says that trying to win back the friendship of an offended person, child, wife, husband, etc., is like trying to capture a
fortified city. That anger is as difficult to overcome as barred gates.
(Prov. 18:19) "A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city and contentions are like the bars of a castle."/ Fixing a shattered friendship is very difficult but not impossible. like the soldier, all alone, facing an armored
town, you need help and GOD'S word is just thing. In the bible we find GOD'S plan, exemplified by our LORD. In the person of JESUS CHRIST we can see the steps that GOD took to repair the broken relationship between himself and us. The mission of JESUS was the active work of GOD restoring an alienated world to himself.
(2 cor. 5:19)"GOD was in CHRIST reconciling the world to himself." / By our LORD'S example we can comprehend the way to proceed and make peace with others. How did GOD do it? What steps did He take to reunite His loved
ones with Himself ? The answer is exposed plainly in His word. 

First remember to pray, before, during and after all things.
Be ye constantly in prayer and in His will.
HE LOVED 
(1 Jn. 4:9-10) "In this the love of GOD was manifested toward us, that GOD has sent His only begotten son into the world, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved GOD, but that He loved us."/ GOD initiated love for peace. He didn't wait for us, even though the fault was ours and we showed no intention of righting things with Him. He came to us in the form of JESUS , He
took the first step. While we were still in Sinn, He proved how much He loved us. 
( Romans 5:8 ) "But God commendeth His love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."/ 
HE HUMBLED HIMSELF
(Philippians 2:8 )  "And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross."/ What profound truth! GOD the King of the universe humbled Himself. GOD became man-in the person of JESUS CHRIST. putting His rights aside, JESUS placed our concerns before His. This astonishing step of humility was necessary to heal our broken relationship with GOD. 
HE SUFFERED
(1 Peter3:18 ) "For Christ also hath once suffered for sins, the just for the unjust, that He might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit."/ Our relationship  with GOD was damaged by sin, a painful sacrifice was the only thing that could heal the wound, in giving His son, GOD was willing to make that sacrifice for us. A choice made by our Father to suffer in our place so that we may have hope and live. 
HE INVITED
 (Ephesians2:17-18) " And came and preached peace to you which were afar off, and to them that were nigh. For through him we both have access by one Spirit unto the Father."/ Through JESUS, GOD has sent a message to everyone , he offers a peace based on His sacrifice. It's our opportunity to come to Him and face the reality of our separation from our Father. He invites us to encounter the
issues, to embrace Him and be restored to Him again. Now the door is open. 
HE FORGAVE
(Ephesians1:7)  "In whom we have redemption through his Blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of his grace." / Even though we all have been
insubordinate and rebellious, GOD has been gracious. We deserve punishment, but he desires mercy for us. Instead of holding our sins over us, god wants to forgive and forget them. Most of us live by the motto "I don't get mad, I get even", GOD doesn't. GOD wants our embrace once again, He wants us to live again in a rite relationship with each other and with our LORD! Such undeserved forgiveness is
certainly reason enough for any one to praise Him. If and when we are willing to accept this restoration, He will assuredly accept us, and all the angels of heaven will rejoice. 
 GOD has imparted to us the steps to restore any broken relationship, our Fathers example must be "with His help" the basis for our method of restoring  relationships, breaking down the barriers between people. 
LOVE
(Ephesians5:1-2) "Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a
sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling savor."/ Loving others that we have conflicts with is  very difficult but if we pursue GODS example, take the initiative and show honest love , not just mere feelings but true warmhearted love and  acceptance between us and the other person. Forced smiles are not the way to go. Pretending will destroy things farther and forcing our selves one others is deadly. It is difficult
but we must thoroughly examine our attitudes, (our primary task), before we go straitening out anything or any one else. let love be without hypocrisy! (Their are no short cuts).
(Romans12:9) "Let  love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be  kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another."/ The only true love is that which comes from above. Those who know GOD know true love, those who impart that love impart true love. 
(Luke6:27-9) "But I say unto you which hear, Love your enemies, do good to them which hate you, Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you. And unto him that smiteth thee on the one cheek offer also the other; and him that taketh away thy cloak forbid not to take thy coat also."/ We must do right regardless of what others do or say, our view of love must be as our
Fathers not the idea the world has concerning love. 
HUMBLE YOURSELF
(Ephesians4:1-3) 'I therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you that ye walk worthy of the vocation herewith ye are called,  With all lowliness and meekness, with long-suffering, forbearing one another in love Endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace."/ Humility is simply the opposite of pride, it is not being week, it is being concerned about the needs, comfort and interests of others, putting others before our selves.When I went to Saint Mary's,(a catholic school for boys), there was a nun that was constantly telling us to behave like gentlemen. one day when I got tired of getting my ears boxed, I asked her, "what exactly is a gentleman"? She replied,
"A LADY OR A GENTLEMAN IS SIMPLY ONE WHO IS CONSIDERATE AND SEES THAT ALL AROUND HIM OR HER IS COMPLETELY AT EASE,
COMFORTABLE AND CONTENT."
After her explanation we started to become more or less conformed the this outline and our ears began to heal up quite nicely.
(Romans12:3) " For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith." Even though it's very hard we must be understanding , even if we do disagree, and if they don't appreciate our efforts. Have the mind of CHRIST and humble our selves as He did. 
(Philippians2:3 -5) "Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.  Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus."/ Be understanding, compassionate, long-suffering, share their problems and their pain, empathy is what it takes. 
(Romans12:14 -15) "Bless them which persecute you: bless, and curse not. Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep."/
INVITE RECONCILIATION
(Matthew18:15) "Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother."/ Communication is imperative, but often avoided because of anger, embarrassment, fear and pride. Whenever conflict exists we must invite the other party to talk about the issues and resolve the differences. Be honest, speak face to face, in privet, discreetly, guarding each others reputations, showing  respect for the privacy of all involved. If all else fails recreate a mediator that is mutually trusted.
(Matthew18:16) "But if he will not hear thee, then take with thee one or two more, that in the mouth of two or three witnesses every word may be established."/  This can be very helpful but at times even this fails," sometimes its helpful to give a "season" to think, reflect, strengthen and time for the holy spirit to do His work. The next thing is to take it to the family, the church.
(Matthew18:17-20) "And if he shall neglect to hear them, tell it unto the church, but if he neglect to hear the church, let him be unto thee as a heathen man and a
publican. Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven, and whatsoever ye shall loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them."/ The wisdom and influence of the elders, and beloved fellow servants, sometimes is just the ticket, to take it to the lord with those that have dedicated all to GOD
is a powerful thing, this is a time when the river of life, miracles and the HOLY SPIRIT flows freely, great and powerful things have transpired and will occur again and again in the name of our LORD. 
FORGIVE
 (Ephesians4:31-32) "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamor, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice: And be ye kind one to another,
tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you."/ Who said that being a disciple of CHRIST was easy, it must have been some one with a pointy tale that got so many to accept this lie. When someone mistreats you it is your duty to forgive if they say there sorry, as it is commanded by our lord. We do not excuse or overlook the offense to others, we are just, as our
LORD is just with us, and recognize these wrongs, deal with them, then put it in a chest and bury it under the deepest ocean, and put up no fishing signs.  (Luke17:3-4) "Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in
a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him." / We must forgive in spite of our feelings, we choose to forgive and in turn we are blessed with being forgiven by our MASTER.
(Colossians3:12-13) "Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, long-suffering,
Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye."/ If we truly want to honor
GOD with our lives we must let His Spirit work in an intimate way in our life, so that forgiveness comes from the heart. let us live with a right attitude. 
(Galatians5:22-26)  But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long-suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another./ We must acknowledge the wrong and then forgive or our own relationship with GOD will be hindered.
GODS WAY /OR/ OUR WAY
Some people just enjoy a good fight, this derives from their seeking pleasure, and fulfilling diverse desires. (James4:1-3) "From whence come wars and fightings
among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it  upon your lusts."/ Our way must be GODS way, unselfish, placing effort on reconciliation, being an example of His way, being wise in "the way", and in GODS word,  showing humbleness, willing to suffer for others sake, being entreating and inviting.We must be JESUS like in our forgiveness. To show the kind of grace to those who hurt, wronged or are angry at us, that GOD has shown to us.
IF IT DOESN'T WORK
GOD doesn't hold us responsible if things don't work out, He does hold us responsible for our actions and words. As His disciples it is our duty to fallow His way, to imitate, emulate our MASTER. If we have sincerely tried to walk this way and things are no better, then listen to this;
DON'T BLAME YOURSELF!
(Psalms120:6-7) "My soul hath long dwelt with him that hateth peace. I am for peace: but when I speak, they are for war." / Both sides must be willing to work towards repairing this relationship, unfortunately, often one person tries and the other doesn't, or just half heartily goes through the moutons with a spiritless attitude that hinders attempts at restoration, most often it's bitterness, fear, anger, shame, resentment, or pride. Whatever the cause
DON'T BLAME YOURSELF if you have done all that you can, they must answer to GOD. PRAY!!!, AND TRUST GOD TO CHANGE THE OTHER PERSON. 
(2 Timothy2:24-25) "And the servant of the Lord must not strive; but be gentle unto all men, apt to teach, patient, In meekness instructing those that oppose
themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth." /  We must heed these words, don't get involved in quarrels, be gentle,
patient, use meekness and courteousness as powerful weapons. Be ye encouraged though our efforts might make little difference, GOD is able, He will change them. 
GET HELP FROM A MEDIATOR
 A friend, a fellow servant, pastor or church elder.
PRAY FOR THEM  AND  CONTINUE ON YOUR PATH 
We must love them unconditionally, be patient, kind, not jealous, or boastful, or big-headed, or rude, or selfish, or quick-tempered, don't hold a grudge, don't delight in their suffering, but rejoice in truth when GODS word is obeyed, be protective of both thiers and our innermost secrets, be trusting, helpful and optimistic, be always loyal!. "If your suffering because of a bad mans injustice; forgive him lest there be to bad men." Augustine. 
SERVE ONE ANOTHER
 (Romans15:1-7) "We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let every one of us please his  neighbor for his good to edification. For even Christ pleased not himself; but, as it is written, The reproaches of them that reproached thee fell on me. For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the scriptures might have hope. Now the God of patience and consolation grant you to be like minded one toward another according to Christ Jesus  That ye may with one mind and one mouth glorify God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Wherefore receive ye one another, as Christ also received us to the glory of God." / Follow this faithfully, pleasing others before yourself in your regained relationships and in all your other relationships and all of them will be strong. These things will certainly glorify our LORD.
(Matthew5:8) "Blessed are the pure in heart: for they shall see God." / 

LET US PRAY ; IN THE NAME THE FOTHER,  IN THE NAME OF JESUS AND
 IN THE NAME OF HIS HOLY SPIRIT

"HEAVENLY FATHER OUR SOLES CRIES OUT TO THEE, OUR HEARTS YEARN FOR PEACE, ITS' FLESH IS TORN BY THE WORLD. OUR LORD
AND KING IS THE ONLY HEALER. O LORD WE ARE SO EMPTY OF JOY, I BEG THEE, FILL US ONCE AGAIN, COME AND ENFOLD US IN YOUR
LOVE AND MERCY, OUR FRIENDS HAVE CHOSEN TO WAR ON US AND WE WANTED ONLY PEACE. FORGIVE THEM LORD AND FORGIVE US FOR THE WRETCHEDNESS OF OUR WAY. WE BEG THEE O GRATE AND HOLY ONE, HEAL US RETURN, US TO YOUR WAYS AND RESTORE OUR  FEET TO YOUR PATH, PLEASE BRING BACK THE FRIENDS THAT HAVE BEAN
TORN ASUNDER, RESTORE US ALL ONE TO ANOTHER SO THAT IT WILL BRING  GREAT GLORY UNTO YOU O GOD. LET THE FIRE THAT IS YOUR HOLY SPIRIT FALL UPON US, HEAL US, AND CHANGE US, BENDING US TO YOUR WILL, RESTORING US TO YOU AND TO ONE ANOTHER.
LET YOUR HOLY RIVER OF LIFE FLOW THROUGH US, LET THE LIGHT OF YOUR GLORY BIND AND CLEEN US AND MAKE US "ONE" AGAIN, SET US FREE FROM THE CLUTCHES OF THE EVIL ONE, FROM PAIN AND ANGER, FROM HATRED GRIEF AND FEAR, WE CLAIM AND PROFESS VICTORY OVER THIS IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS OUR LORD AND MASTER! WE PRAY MAKE OUR WILL YOUR WILL, NOT JUST A PART BUT ALLOW US TO GIVE ALL FOR GODS GLORY, O LORD GOD WHO IS THE ALL MIGHTY SEND THE HEALING FIRE  THAT IS YOUR OWN HOLY SPIRIT TO HEAL US AND MAKE US HOLE AGAIN. WE PRAY AS SERVANTS OF GOD THE FATHER, THE SON AND THE HOLY SPIRIT,
AMEN.
                                                                           JC&WE